So she began to teach herself (and eventually others) about men’s bodies, about how antidepressants can affect libido, about the ways in which people who live with cerebral palsy and other conditions can have sex—and eventually started a blog, The Fucking Facts, to address some of those questions. There’s no funding here to look at sexuality, so it falls on the hands of whoever is comfortable talking about it,” she says. But these portrayals still exist on the fringes, and finding them is not easy.And although there’s more information out there now than when she started at Venus Envy eight years ago, she’s still longing for more pop culture portrayals of disabled people being sexy. *** Pop culture, from which we take so many of our sexual cues, has been sorely lacking when it comes to realistic depictions of sex and disability.Maybe even asking your partner to help you empty your catheter bag before you go to sleep.Any of those scenarios would do a number on your self-esteem.
If you’re living with a disability, the obstacles and challenges extend far beyond the “does-he-like-me?
For years after Kaleigh Trace, 30, sustained an incomplete spinal cord injury at age 9–which landed her in a wheelchair and affected her mobility, sensation, and bladder control–she received absolutely zero information about sex.
“There wasn’t a lot of [sex ed], especially in rural Canada.
The challenges of dating with a disability don’t begin and end in the bedroom—they start with education, move to dating and accessible spaces and encompass sexual preferences that may change as your disability does.
*** While schools across Canada are still debating what broad information about sex education is appropriate, and when to teach it, specific education about sexual health and disability isn’t even on their radar.