Once the initial contact is made many details have to be filled in, often with family assistance, but the element of independent choice remains strong. So too should be men who contact women, some of whom could be cruel and ruthless.
Or at least that is the myth that feminist professors desperate for tenure often spin out to the public.
The principle of marrying for social and economic compatibility may have been downplayed in recent history as aristocracy and privilege have tended to merge with a cult of celebrity status.
So, from a strictly financial point of view it is hard to beat A Foreign Affair’s romance tours, but, more importantly, these tours get rave reviews. If that does not convince you they will actually give you the phone numbers of previous customers who will happily provide personal testimonials. I do not know of another company in any industry that makes that offer, but that is why AFA is the best. If you still want to do it yourself the costs are harder to figure in advance. Are you flexible enough to meet a woman, probably a younger woman, from a different culture and build a deep lasting relationship. You have to learn about one another’s strengths and weaknesses.
Is it worth it for you to consider a mail order bride? You have to get at least some idea of the woman’s habits and personal deportment.
Some slow moving guys communicate for years, spending enough money for two or three romance tours, before they ever meet a mail order bride in person.
That may seem crazy, but it is surprisingly fun to communicate with these ladies and when there is no pressure a lot of guys do not feel a sense of urgency to immediately take the trip and visit.