As a bonus, the dates he comes up with will give you some insight into how he feels."If he suggests seeing the Georgia O'Keefe exhibit because he remembers you like her art, that's a sure sign of romance," Trespicio says. It's great—except that you have no idea where things stand.He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it.No need to sign up at the homeless shelter only to impress him.Little things in your everyday life, from buying coffee for the woman in line behind you to walking your neighbor's dog, count too.In a recent British study, people rated potential sexual partners to be more attractive for a long-term relationship if they had altruistic qualities."Giving back to others shows your good heart and integrity, and although they may not consciously think that far in the future, men are subconsciously assessing maternal traits in a woman to see what kind of mother she'd be," Kelman says.
Wait a few minutes to text back, or if he asks if you're free Tuesday, say that you have other plans but you'd love to meet up on Wednesday.
Talk about blurred lines."Every person and relationship is different, and there's no magic phrase or action that can 'get' someone to commit," says Terri Trespicio, a lifestyle and relationship expert based in New York City. One thing to look out for: If he's acting extremely jealous or policing your every move, you need to really reevaluate things.
However you can use these tips to subtly up the chances that he'll want to turn casual dating into something more. And never tell yourself, "He's a nice guy and has done nothing wrong, so I guess I should be with him." "That's convincing yourself of something that's probably not right," Trespicio says.
Check out a craft beer festival, see a local band at some hole-in-the-wall, or challenge him to a mountain bike race.
A new adventure can fortify your relationship since it gives you shared memories to reminiscence about later, and that stronger bond will increase the likelihood he'll want to keep seeing you, exclusively.