Wendy, a veteran online dater from the tri-state area concurs.
“It sounds stupid and elementary,” she says, “but it shocks me how many guys—especially the ones in their 20s—don’t fully read the profile.
Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.
The scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25The problem..the solution: We get it.
By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.
If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah.
, we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.
If nothing else, she’ll admire the fact that you took the time to “get to know” her.“What I would honestly tell you, flat out, is that just because don’t care,” says Wendy.“Just because someone looks cool and has a good sense of humor doesn’t mean that a woman who clearly states, “I’m looking for marriage and children” is going to respond well to you … ’ doesn’t cut it, but something like, ‘I can’t believe you met Ryan Gosling!And yet, it’s a common enough gambit that gets would-be daters shot down on a regular basis.) So, don’t be distracted.Next, pay attention to the major parameters of what your potential date is looking for, and honor them.