Women get so tripped up in relationships by honing in on the words while it’s really the actions that say it all.
If he is there for you, if he is considerate of you, if he goes out of his way for you, if he opens up to you, he loves you. Look, I don’t think I’m making any radical claims by saying men are the less communicative of the two genders. I know it can sometimes feel like he’s intentionally trying to make your life more difficult, and while he may be driving you nuts, deep down all he really wants is to provide for you and give you what you need. Men aren’t women (sorry to throw another shocker at you there! They aren’t able to intuit the nuances and decipher the clues.
Don’t despair – I have a little secret that is sure to perk you up: men – yes, those creatures who are so often the bane of our very existence, the ones who puzzle us and tear us apart inside, the ones that cause so much grief but always keep us coming back for more – are not all that difficult to understand.
In fact, I think I have an easier time explaining why men do things than I do with women.
(Source) If a man is at work, then that is the sole center of his world and nothing exists outside of that.
The fact that a man doesn’t text you as much or as often as you’d like doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you – he’s usually just focusing on something else and most men have a difficult time seeing beyond a given task at hand.
Fortunately, I’m not the selfish type and am more than happy to share everything I’ve learned.
There are all kinds of reasons why this is such an issue for women and why men are so oblivious to it – reasons we’ve discussed at length in previous articles– but the takeaway is that this whole thing is a non-issue for men. Yeah, they’ll text a lot in the beginning when they’re trying to win you over, but it’s not sustainable or realistic to continue at that level indefinitely.
In the beginning, it’s all new and fresh and if he’s really into you he will be thinking about you a lot and will feel the urge to text you frequently.
If you want to know where he really stands, pay closer attention to what he’s doing and put less emphasis on what he is and isn’t saying. If you want him to give you what you want, tell him what it is that you want!
The trick is to do it in a way that’s encouraging, not one that’s threatening, demanding, or nagging.